Bella Dyosa

Life, as we all know, is cyclical.

We’re born into this world without any expectations until we enter the endless cycle of falling down and getting back up again (literally and figuratively).

As the Japanese proverb goes, “Fall down seven times, stand up eight.“

Our lives are mostly composed of that cycle, where we’re taught the same lesson over and over again until we finally get it. Only to be given another lesson by the universe. Along with other mini bonus lessons, some even come at you five at a time.

What fun!

Real talk: in the moment, that falling down bit SUCKS, but when you stand back up, there’s enlightenment, joy, gratitude, and profound appreciation of who you are and where you are in your journey.

Which brings me to another cycle that may be less popular (at least from what I’ve witnessed)–winging it.

Some may refer to this as going with the flow, rolling with the punches, or in the Philippines, leaving it up to Batman (yes, we love to throw all our burdens and problems to him, no idea why).

This cycle, however you call it, is particularly difficult for human beings because we like having full control of everything in and around us.

But guess what? There are some things that are simply out of our hands. You’ve got the weather, you’ve got your past AND your future, and you’ve got other people’s feelings, actions, beliefs, so on and so forth.

With the cycle of winging it, we are implored to let things go and hope everything will work out (and it usually does, though most of the time, not in the way we exactly imagined).

We do our best with what we can control like our own actions and behaviors, but the rest is up in the air.

And that’s okay.

Because that’s when faith comes in. When hope comes in. When belief comes in.

The cycle of winging it also reassures us that feeling lost is normal. We may feel aimless from time to time, not knowing what to do. In turn, you’ll come to find out that there are others who have no idea what the heck they’re doing too!

It’s wild yet comforting.

Furthermore, getting lost is actually necessary to find what you want in life and most especially, what is meant for you. A rewarding paradox, if you will.

What I like the most about the cycle of winging it–despite its trial and tribulations–is that it teaches us to not take ourselves and life too seriously.

Granted that there are some things in life we have to be responsible for and exert our effort in to the best of our ability; overall, it’s just good to laugh a little. Plus, it’s beneficial to our mental health.

Imagine beating yourself up over the tiniest conundrums or amping up the grumpiness over a mistake you can’t change for weeks, months, or years on end.

A lot of us (myself included) do it and it’s totally valid (to a certain extent, depending on the situation, of course)–but if you really think about it, it’s silly. Also, it’s unnecessary added stress.

Walk and laugh it off!

Because after everything is said and done, there’s not much for us to do except learn and make better choices moving forward.

And with the everlasting cycle of winging it, all you’ve got to remember is to stay present, do what’s best for you in the moment, and leave the rest to the universe to work with.

Or maybe to Batman.

Either way, we’ve got this.